The Art of Flirting & Ecstatic Touch with Monique Darling & Alex S. Morgan

When October 7, 2018
6:00 pm - 7:30 pm


Iron Giant Loft



Have you run into roadblocks on your way to your heart’s desire? Has it been challenging to consistently find people (and sex!) of quality? What if it could be fun and easy to find the pleasure, flirtation, and affection you crave?

Intimacy coaches and sexuality facilitators Alex S. Morgan and Monique Darling will pull out our tool kits and show you how to navigate flirting with more joy and less stress. We’ve helped hundreds of singles, couples, and moresomes of all genders and orientations get the love they want; come take a peek at our map and learn how to make your own journey easier and more fun!

You’ll learn:

  • How to pull in what you want and drop what you don’t
  • When you should say yes to no, say no to maybe, and answer a “yes” with action
  • How to figure out exactly what you need—and learn the formula that makes asking for it easier

By the end of this class, you will:

  • Discover the invitation that takes the stress out of flirting
  • Uncover what makes you authentically attractive to others
  • Know the three things you need to identify to overcome self-sabotaging attractions
  • Practice techniques you can use to flirt—and date—for sexual compatibility
  • Learn what a no really means for you, and how to make both hearing it and saying it less awkward

You’ll have an opportunity to practice the flirting and negotiation skills we’ll cover today—think of it as “lab time”—and will leave with a new set of tools to make your dating life and your sexual journey both easier and more fun.

Next, let Alex and Monique help you learn how to empower your sensual conscious touch. Explore the tactile language of stimulating arousal, that touches the deepest part of our soul.

This experiential laboratory will include breathing and chakra balancing meditation, and playful, non-sexual massage. We’ll guide you through an odyssey of touch, that lets you explore the four elements, on/through each other.

First you will go on a journey using the most intimate form of touch, our breath. We’ll be introducing an ancient ritual where you will explore each other’s bodies, magnifying your connection physically, energetically, and spiritually. Then, align your chakras through touch, breath, connection, and shared intent.

Next comes earth touch, as you ground, and recenter, massage, nurture, hold, BE with one another…

Followed by fire, as you invigorate, entice, awaken, arouse, “heat” up yourself and your partner…

Cooling down with water touch, fluid, soft, caressing, gentle, swaying, following, gliding.

With each element, drop even deeper into your embodied bliss state as you learn to touch for YOUR pleasure, as you get to practice asking for the specific types of touch your body is craving/imagining at any moment.

Finally Alex and Monique, being two massage enthusiasts, will lead you through some simple massage techniques for neck, hands, and feet and even throw in some of our own unique “black belt” tools that will leave your partner breathless and asking for more.

Bring a partner or come solo and be paired up with practice partners for the event so you can take these skills home and wow your lover!

Bring a water bottle and a curious, open mind. Wear comfy clothes that you can move around in. Please come without scented products so all attendees can fully engage.

(This is a PG-13 event. All exercises will be clothed and touch-optional.)

Want more time to experiment and play? Join us at 2 PM for Monique’s popular Intro to Energy Sex class (, or at 7:30 PM for an all-gender, all-orientation, consent-focused Play Party Bliss ( with Monique, Alex, and Peter. (Get a day pass and attend all our Sunday events!)


Iron Giant Loft, 1080 23rd Ave, Oakland, CA 94606

BART accessible; free on-street parking. Spacious private live/work loft in a residential building. Suite number provided after registration or contact Alex privately for pay-at-door:


First floor, no stairs or steps. All gender/single occupant restroom. Plenty of couch, chair, and cozy mattress space available.

The home is low-fragrance; we encourage attendees to also use unscented products so that everyone can play comfortably. There are two cats in residence; they will be in a closed back room during the event. There is a HEPA air purifier in the event space itself to reduce allergens.


$25 individuals, $45 couples

Please note that tickets may sell out early – if tickets sell out, there will be none available at door. Save your spot now:


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If something comes up and you can’t attend, just email Alex to ask for rollover credit to a future event.

Email or text Alex if you have any questions or concerns: / (510) 480-0235

About Your Facilitators

Monique Darling, author of ‘Beyond Cuddle Party’ and workshop facilitator extraordinaire has led over 1500 workshops in the past 8 years. She is the founder of Everyday Tantra, an organization dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be and to offering tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to enjoy the life they have. Monique has taught at colleges across the US including Yale. She has been featured on TLC and The Dr’s as well as various radio shows, podcasts and magazines across the globe. She specializes in helping others reclaim their power and natural sensuality by transmuting fear and repression into courage, self-love and freedom. Her primary purpose is helping folks bring out their vulnerability, energetic embodiment and fearless relating. Learn more about Monique by going to or track her whereabouts at
Alex S. Morgan is a sexuality, gender, and relationship coach, a sexual rights advocate, a sacred intimate, and a professional switch (both dominant and submissive). Working directly with clients’ sexualities since 2004 has given Alex a deft sensitivity to the needs of people exploring new facets of themselves and an understanding of the power of connection in both our public and private lives.

A believer in continuing education for all adults exploring sex, gender, and relationships, Alex presents internationally on relationships, kink, sexuality, gender, and related policy issues at venues ranging from private workshops to public organizations, Stanford to SXSW. They offer workshops, facilitated events, and inservice trainings by request.

Alex is available for individual and couples coaching or sacred intimate sessions at home in the San Francisco Bay Area, in the DC area every other month, or worldwide via phone and Skype.

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