April 8, 2019
7:00 pm - 9:30 pm
Iron Giant Loft
1080 23rd Ave, Oakland, CA 94606
Oakland, CA 94606
Stop Falling for Unavailable People: Mindfulness and Attachment Styles with Liam Marcus
Do you feel like…
- you always fall for unavailable people?
- the people you’re attracted to never like you as much as you like them?
- your needs for intimacy scare people away?
- you freak out when your partner is with someone else?
- you feel abandoned when your partner doesn’t text you back?
- your partners don’t care as much about you as you care about them?
Or, do you feel like…
- you freak out when someone gets too close to you?
- you want relationships but always feel hemmed in?
- your partners have radically different relationship expectations than you?
- you prefer to keep your innermost feelings to yourself?
- you can’t trust anybody?
- your partners don’t meet your standards?
- you value freedom and independence above all else?
- when you get triggered, you isolate and have trouble reaching out for support?
Perhaps you can relate to both.
In this workshop, you’ll learn how to recognize your attachment style so that you can know what you need to work on and take steps to get out of your own way.
You’ll learn mindfulness skills that can help reduce reactivity so that you’ll have more space to choose how to respond. These skills can also help you regulate your emotions so that you can feel more at ease and less anxious about your relationships.
The workshop will begin with a brief quiz to determine your attachment style, followed by some introductory teaching on the attachment styles, paired exercises, and group sharing. We’ll follow this with a discussion of what mindfulness is and how it can help us recognize the stories we tell ourselves about our lives and relationships, reduce reactivity, and choose healthier ways of being in relationship. We’ll end with some training in meditation and mindfulness.
Liam Marcus has explored the intersections of meditation, mindfulness, and relationships for over 20 years. He practices vipassana, or insight meditation, and also has a background in Vajrayana Buddhism and Zen. He has practiced surrogate partner therapy since training with IPSA in 1999 and studied with Body Electric School from 1997 to 2008. As a transmasculine, genderqueer sacred intimate, he loves creating spaces where people feel safe to explore their bodies and desires. In his other life, he has a Ph.D. in the humanities from U.C. Berkeley and has authored or co-authored 5 nonfiction books. Liam’s preferred pronouns are he/him/his or they/them/theirs.
Liam is available for both individual and couples coaching sessions via phone and video call everywhere and face-to-face in the DC area.